Code of Conduct

This code of conduct applies to all Chelt Fems spaces, including on  this website, Twitter, our blog, Facebook and at meetings.

dancing-cat-w3501. Be nice – It’s annoying to have to spell this out, not least because most people are. Chelt Fems should be a supportive space where members feel free to make reasonable comments in good faith.

Chelt Fems is not faceless organisation but a group of individuals who devote time and energy to keeping this group going. It is important to acknowledge and appreciate the work they put in. Constructive criticism is welcome; personal attacks or dismissive comments will not be accepted.

Please think about the balance of your comments; when comments are continually critical rather than constructive threads often trail off as people become reluctant to put their views forward.

  1. Everyone will make mistakes from time to time, but there must be room for that in order for the space to remain safe. We may call you out on expressions of your privilege; you may call us out on ours. Deconstructing privilege furthers learning and progress.
  2. Where relevant, please include trigger warnings. Posts that may be triggering without warnings will be removed; it’s really important that Chelt Fems discussions are open to all and that everyone feels able to contribute.
  3. Chelt Fems is dedicated to providing a harassment-free experience for everyone. Harassment includes:
    • Offensive comments related to gender, sexual orientation, disability, mental illness, neuro(a)typicality, physical appearance, body size, race, or religion
    • Unwelcome comments regarding a person’s lifestyle choices and practices, including those related to food, health, parenting, and employment
    • Deliberate misgendering or use of rejected names
    • Sustained disruption of discussion
    • Continued one-on-one communication after requests to cease

Chelt Fems prioritises marginalised people’s safety over privileged people’s comfort. We cat-wrestlingwill not act on complaints regarding:
• ‘Reverse’ -isms, including ‘reverse racism’ or ‘reverse sexism,’
• Reasonable communication of boundaries, such as “leave me alone,” “go away,” or “I’m not discussing this with you.”
• Communicating in a ‘tone’ you don’t find congenial
• Criticising racist, sexist, or otherwise oppressive behaviour or assumptions

Chelt Fems members asked to stop any harassing behaviour are expected to comply immediately.

  1. Everyone makes mistakes, but from now these will be politely and privately pointed out. Please accept any constructive criticism offered and be mindful that it’s often hard to give. If a member continues to engage in offensive behaviour, the administrators may take any action they deem appropriate, up to and including expulsion from all Chelt Fems spaces and identification of the participant as a harasser to other members or the general public.


6. Do not use language that falls foul of the anti-harassment points outlined above in      point 3.

i). Please also consider use of language which is used as a slur towards women. Whether this is directed towards a member of the group or not, some language is just not ok.

ii). Please attempt to understand the tone, context and intent of comments. Should you find something offensive, do follow the procedure below, but please accept that most people do not intend to cause offence and that Chelt Fems is intended to offer an informal forum for discussion, and at times this may be light-hearted.

Dealing with Offensive commentsindex

7). Debate and discussion is a big part of what Chelt Fems is about and we in no way want to stop that. However, unless something is burningly offensive,
consider sending a private message rather than publically shaming.

7i). Should you not want to address the person yourself, please do let one of the administrators know and we will put forward your complaint without disclosing your name.